Our 4 Paws Adventure – Day 8 – First Bath

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

Everyone seemed a little off today.  The kids were wound up extra tight and seemed to fall apart over the least little thing.  I’ve had allergy issues all week and my RA started flaring today so I was wound up extra tight and wanted to fall apart over the least little thing.  April seemed to sense all that and seemed pretty restless with everyone else on edge.  Bedtime could not come soon enough.  That’s all I’m sayin’.  They are not asleep yet but at least they’re contained in a smaller area.  Although I did just hear Caleb on the monitor say something about going out the window.  I hope that’s just talk. We did a practice track in the halls tonight with April and she did great but I really don’t feel like testing it out for real.  Not tonight.  I just want to sit down with my Homewood Suites coffee cup that my sweet husband used to smuggle wine from the lobby.  Okay, scratch all of that.  It took me 48 minutes to type this paragraph because of how many times they got out of bed or basically terrorized each other.  I’m done.  My mind is 1000% gone.  This day can be over.  Now.

In class today, we practiced “place” from longer distances.  We did alright but we need to work on that one more during the evening.  We also worked on some behavioral disruptions.  “Nudge” will ask April to go over to Caleb if he’s crying and she will nudge him and try to distract him.  “Touch” will ask her to put her paw on him to hopefully distract him from any kind of stimming that we want to reduce (like gnawing on objects or loud vocals in a public place).  “Kisses” will just have her go over and do exactly that- give a little doggy kiss to help distract.  We didn’t practice this one because Caleb is a bit weirded out by licking.

Our track today was in a new place that was still covered in snow.  It was beautiful and kinda fun to be the first person to walk that path.  I have found that I absolutely love going for walks in the snow.  As long as I have the right shoes, it’s awesome.  We walked the outer edge of the park to the tree and then took a right towards the woods.  We half-slid, half-walked down a hill and found ourselves in this little bit of woods.  The snow covered all the underbrush so it was just the trees and the snow.  It was so quiet and peaceful.  In between the snowballs, anyway.  Each one of my kids has a pretty good aim, by the way, so watch out.

After class today, April went out back to play with some pals and confirmed her need for a bath.  When we got back to the hotel, she hesitantly got into the tub.  Our lab may or may not have gotten the memo that she’s supposed to love water.  The jury is still out, I think.  Apparently, when we get back home, it will already be summertime so we’ll be figuring this out soon.

It’s hard to believe that we only have two class days left.  Our test will be Friday and then we’ll (hopefully) be celebrating our graduation with all of our classmates.  You really do connect with your classmates and make lifelong friends.  Everyone told us that 4 Paws is just a wonderful oasis from the real world and it really, truly is.

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Day 7 – Snow Day!

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

Today we practiced using just the hand signals for commands so we wouldn’t have to verbally command all the time.  We also took some notes on tracking and received our Flexi Leash.  It was all really important, but this post will probably end up being mostly pictures.  I can’t stop looking at, taking pictures of, or talking about this snow.  It is crazy beautiful.  It’s probably going to spoil me for any kind of other wintry  weather.  This freshly fallen, powdery soft, heavy flakes kinda snow is what I’ll think of forever and ever until another 20 years goes by before I see it again!

Last night, the view from our windows was mesmerizing.  Which is saying a lot because our view is of a parking lot, office building, and then I-675 behind that.  After we put the kids to bed, I ran out to the car to get our boots inside for the morning.  When I started back, I saw that Caleb was peeking out of the window instead of sleeping.  I couldn’t blame him in the least.  So instead of correcting him, I threw a snowball at the window and watched him collapse in a giggle fit.  He ended up falling asleep between the window and the curtains.  That had to be an interesting sight for the guy clearing the sidewalks with that snow-be-gone machine thing.  When he woke up this morning to find that the trucks had cleared the parking lot, I thought we were going to have the meltdown to end all meltdowns.  He thought it had all melted and wouldn’t believe us that there was still more than enough snow for lots of fun.  Tracking practice fixed that!

It has continued to snow throughout today and will continue off and on all day tomorrow.  I can’t believe how much the snow changes the way the landscape looks.  On one hand, it looks like a fresh start with a clean slate and all the imperfections covered up with a pure white blanket.  On the other hand, it can sometimes look like a bland and dreary nothingness.  To my inexperienced eyes, it looks like the first scenario.  I can totally understand, though, how it would look like a never-ending frozen blah if you’ve been dealing with it for six months.

family snow

For example, I guess I never really thought about how much longer it takes you to get the day started.  If we didn’t have the handyman with the snow-be-gone thing, we’d have to be out early to shovel a path.  Just like every other day, Jake walked the kids and April over to the lobby for breakfast while I loaded the car and then drove over to the front so we could easily scoot out when we were done.  So I sent them on their merry way and I turned to the car.  And stopped.  And looked.  And scratched my head.  I couldn’t even find the door handles.  There was at least four inches of snow waiting to fall in the seat as soon as I opened the door.  Hmmm.  How was this going to work?  Just as I started attacking it with my hands and arms, wiping as much as I could into the parking lot, our classmate rounded the corner and just had to laugh a bit.  He very politely offered me his snow brush scraper thing and just mentioned that “This might work a bit better.”  He ended up scraping the windshield for me because, apparently, if I had continued on my way and just used the wipers, they would have frozen?  Or something very negative.  When I parked the car today, I noticed some cars with Ohio plates left their windshield wipers standing straight up.  I have no idea what this does, but I assume they know what they’re doing so I copied them.

We are learning all sorts of snow stuff.  Except the correct terms or names for anything, I guess.  All I know is I’m so so happy for my rainboots.  Especially during the tracking!!  And once we leave the snow and head back to the Sunshine State, they’ll be ready for hurricane season…

snowy branches

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Day 6 – All Kinds of Fun!

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

This day has just been nonstop excitement!

We learned “lap” and “over” commands which will be helpful in comforting Caleb and giving him some of that sensory input he seeks.  We can tell April, “lap,” and she will come and lay her head on whatever we’re pointing at (most often, Caleb’s lap).  We can tell her “over” and she will lay down across whatever we indicate.  This will definitely come in handy and also help with the bonding process.

We also found out that April knows how to bark on command.  While this is mostly used for the seizure alert dogs, it can be handy if we want to train April to bark if she sees Caleb wander away without an adult.  I’m also thinking it could be handy while Jake is working the night shift at the hospital.  If I hear a noise at the front door, I just have to say, “Bark!” and April will most likely scare away any of the neighborhood troublemakers who have been breaking into cars lately.  She has a great bark!

Our track today was long and fast and I got to hold the leash.  I was so nervous, but Jessa (our trainer) said I handled her well.  I’m going to take her word for it!  Besides just running in the cold with allergy issues, it was fun!  April found Caleb very quickly again today.  On the way back to the starting point, I noticed tons of deer tracks everywhere.  I was even more impressed that she was able to focus in on Caleb’s scent and not be distracted by all the other scents that must have been lingering around.  As soon as we got back in the car, it started to snow.  Like real snow!  First time in my whole life that I’ve ever seen it snowing for real.  It was absolutely beautiful.  The kids and Jake thought it was awesome, too.

 We had lunch at the mall with April and met up with our group for tethering practice and a couple of indoor tracks.  I walked off with Caleb inside JCPenney and we laid down a scent trail.  This is different in a few ways from the outdoor tracks, but mostly because there is no wind.  Our superdog found Caleb once again.  As a “reward,” she got to ride the train with us.  I have no idea if she liked it, but she at least tolerated it politely.

When we left the mall, there was a shallow covering of snow all over.  We embarrassed ourselves.  But I don’t care one little bit.  It was so much fun!  We had our first snowball fight right there in front of the sporting goods store.

 Back at the hotel, our awesome suite keeper had left a note warning us of the coming snowfall and left us a few peppermints.  We made some hot chocolate and are now just hanging out and watching for more snow.  In just a minute, I’ll get up and start cooking some chili.  Today is the first day on this trip that felt like a vacation.  I have been so exhausted after finally being done with class and practice and playtime and dinner and baths and prep for the next day.  But today?  Today has been all kinds of fun and we are so grateful!blog collage

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Service Dog Training Day 5 – Tethering

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

This day has been so up and down emotionally.  This post might be kinda short because I am so exhausted.

Today was the first day since meeting April that I’ve had some weepy moments.  This morning was the first time tracking without a trainer hiding with Caleb.  It was just me and Caleb and Grace.  We walked in one direction and then took a right for a bit.  We finally hid behind a utility shed just outside of right field at a local high school.  This was kind of the true test.  April was used to tracking her trainers.  Maybe the first couple of days had been so successful because she was very familiar with the trainer’s scent.  When she found us, I just about lost it.  This was the track that really hit me.  The long walk back to the parking area was spent trying to get it together.  I’m about to get weepy again just thinking about the significance of it.

So then we grabbed a bite to eat for lunch.  April came with us into a restaurant for the first time with just us on our own.  We were just trying to play it cool but she is a total pro.  And she is already making such a huge difference!  Waiting is not an easy thing to do for Caleb.  He just laid down on the booth seat and spent the time petting April.  It was so awesome.

After lunch, we were introduced to the tether.  We learned how to attach it all and then practiced with adults pulling at the tether and our dogs staying in place.  Whether in a “heel” or in a “down,” April was awesome.  I can’t quite tell yet if it’s because she wants to please us or if it’s because she seriously loves her Pupperoni treats.  I’d like to think it’s a combination of both.

As awesome as tracking is, tethering is the moment I’ve been waiting for.  This is what will make the most enormous daily difference in our lives.  So, of course, like the emotional basket case I apparently am, I got weepy all over again just talking about it.  We went to dinner with Pretzel’s family at the mall and we got a chance to try out the tether.  This was the first time that I can remember that we were walking somewhere like the mall and I didn’t have a death grip on his hand.  The tether is attached to April’s harness on one end.  The other end is clipped to a belt around Caleb’s waist.  He also has a little leash that he can hold and “walk” his dog.  There was absolutely a subtle shift in the way he carried himself tonight.  He was able to walk around the mall and hold his drink and not be completely dependent on a parent just to walk through the food court.  He absolutely loved introducing April to people.  He seemed to have such a sense of pride.  It made my heart so happy. 

I have absolutely no idea what we’re going to work on tomorrow.  I think we’ll be headed back to the mall as a group to practice public access.  I’m not worried about it at all.  Pretzel and April made a friend tonight.  A baby boy was just having the best time climbing all over them and giving them kisses.  They loved it.  Once, Caleb tripped over a metal plate on the floor and it startled April but she didn’t break heel.  I’m amazed.

Tracking will definitely take an interesting turn with this crazy winter storm on its way.  They’re expecting 5-9 inches of snow here in the next couple of days.  Ummm…yeahhhh.  That whole excitement over snow thing might be about to bite me…

No matter what we end up working on, I know it will be awesome.  April has made such a huge difference in so many ways already.  We’ve only had her for five days and it’s already so difficult for me to imagine life without her.

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Service Dog Training Day 4 and First Public Outing!

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

smushyfaceDay 4 of service dog training started early.  We humans finally wised up and took April to the 4 Paws facility about 20 minutes early so she could play before class.  It totally worked out.  She was a model pupil today.  Yesterday, she and her pal, Pretzel, were like teenage girls who had to be separated in class so they’d stop talking and giggling.  Today, they just quietly passed a note or two.  =)

After some review and learning the “under” command (the dog goes under the table and lies down – perfect for restaurants or classrooms), we went out for our second track.  It was a balmy 38 degrees!  Practically summer.  So I went without my hat, scarf and gloves and felt okay.  The wind was a bit chilly but no big deal.  I figured I was just quickly becoming a seasoned pro at this midwest March thing, which is great because we’re going to be getting snow on Sunday and Monday!!  Just a little word of advice to any other Southerners headed this way: When you find yourself saying, “Hey it’s really not so bad!” just know that is about three hours before you realize your hands are so windburned, you just want to stick them in a bucket of aloe and call it a night.

Windburned hands are worth what I got to see April do today.  It is completely obvious that tracking is her thing.  Each kid that walked off with a trainer, she had her eye on until she couldn’t see them any longer.  She whined and jumped and squirmed to try to go and find them.  She kept looking at me as if to say, “Don’t you see this?  They’re walking away!”  It was incredible to be on this side of the tracking practice and see her do her sniffing and tracking.  Even though Caleb was so not in the mood for it (just post-meltdown before the track), it all worked out great.  And I’m happy I didn’t break my ankle running across the uneven field.

After lunch, we headed out to the mall for our first public outing as service dog handlers.  I’m not gonna lie.  I was totally nervous.  Had we ruined her in the few days she’s been with us?  Would we get in public and she would totally change personalities?  What if she pooped on the floor?  What if she jumped on a kid?  Would we leave the mall with a latte and a lawsuit?

She. Was. Perfect.  I have absolutely no fears about taking her anywhere.  She followed commands.  She stayed in a “down” with other dogs in the group passing her, with strangers coming up to pet her, and even with people walking by with really yummy-smelling food.  Once, someone even spilled a bag of dog treats about three feet from her.  She perked up but never left her position.  Mind = blown.  I am so humbly grateful that our prayers have been answered so abundantly.

We came back to the hotel and just ate dinner in our room because we were all kinda worn out from a long day.  It was so great to get all cleaned up and cozy.  Have I mentioned lately that I love staying in hotels?  I especially love staying in this hotel.  Let me tell you.  I could definitely get used to having someone cook two hot meals a day for me plus clean my house.  Not only does the “suite keeper” come in every day and take out the trash, dust, vacuum, and make our beds, but she also leaves the kids blankets in fun shapes, writes sweet notes for us, and makes sure to let us know what to expect in her schedule.  I’m trying to figure out how to make enough room in the car for her.  Sorry, Homewood Suites, Brittany is coming home with us.

Tomorrow, we’ll go for another morning track and then back to 4 Paws for the rest of the day.  According to the weather forecast, tracking practice on Sunday and Monday looks like it might be in the snow!  The temps will be technically warmer than they were earlier this week, so we’re good with it.  I really hope I can get some cute pictures of the kids and April in the snow.  They told us that April loves playing in the snow.  I feel a little bad that she has no idea what she’s in for with Florida’s summertime heat and humidity.  Maybe she’ll love swimming just as much as the snow?  I hope so!

Hope everyone enjoys their weekends!  Goodnight from Ohio!

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Day 3 – The First Track

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

This morning’s training was a bit different. The class was split into two groups for search training. Wandering is hugely prevalent on the autism spectrum and Caleb is no exception. Autism-related wandering and elopement have given me quite a few scares. April and her classmates are all dogs with great noses. They’ve all been trained in scent tracking and today, they got to practice tracking their kids.

We volunteered to go with the second track group. By “volunteered,” I mean that when they asked for people who wanted to go in the first group, we looked at the ceiling and the floor and the dog and the kids. Anything to have just a couple more warming hours. Spoiler Alert: It never really warmed up.

After reviewing what we learned yesterday, we worked on those commands with a dropped leash and then out of sight. April rocked it with the obedience practice. She was, however, super excited to be with her pals today. We quickly learned that we’ll need to show up to class a bit early so we can let her run a bit.

Halfway through the morning session, our group bundled up and piled into our cars to head to the park. One by one, each child walked a different path with a trainer and they hid inside a different stand of trees. As soon as we pulled into the parking area, April was on super high alert. As each child walked off, she did not take her eyes off of him or her. She was practically trembling. Then it was our turn. Caleb and I walked with one of the trainers into a new area. We had been inside the little wood for just a minute before April came bounding in. She found him. In what must have literally been about 90 seconds. Two minutes at the most.

When you’ve seen some of the absolutely heartbreaking stories in the news about spectrum kiddos who have wandered off, you know that even seconds can make a life or death difference. And then you see this dog track and find your child in such a short amount of time?  You know you’ve just witnessed a total miracle. We’ll get to do it again tomorrow. This time, I’ll get to witness this miracle from the end of the leash and watch April do her thing. Today?  All I know is that she found my boy. Her boy.

This afternoon, we got our mutt mat and learned the “place” command. An example of this one would be if you were at home and you ordered a pizza. When the doorbell rings, you would tell the dog, “place,” and she would go to her mat and lie down until you released her. This cuts down on the number of terrified pizza delivery guys and gals.

According to Caleb’s 24-hour EEG, he is not having seizures so April isn’t trained to do seizure alert. About half of the dogs in our class are trained in seizure alert. We got to watch them practice their seizure alerts today. It was incredible. I totally got tears in my eyes seeing the amazing difference they will make in their families.

After class, we took April out to the yard and I threw the ball for her for about 20 minutes. The kids got to play on the playground. Then it started to snow a bit. It was such a great way to end the day of training. Tomorrow morning, we’ll do a track in the park and then after lunch, we’ll go to the mall for our first public access practice. Eeek!  I hope we do alright. After tomorrow afternoon, we’ll be allowed and expected to practice with April in public places. This is where it really counts. This is what our service dog certification test will be based on. The obedience work lays the foundations but the public access is what will be tested. No pressure!

On that note, I’m gonna go look over the notes from today. Hope everyone has a great night!  

Our 4 Paws Adventure – Training Day 2 – Bringing Her Home

*This post is part of a series originally posted on my former blog, Stinker Babies. I’m reposting here for families who are interested in learning more about the process of being matched with a service dog for their children. This series was written during March of 2013.*

As I write this, I have a beautiful black lab sleeping peacefully at my feet. Despite the way it started, today has been a long but very awesome day.

We didn’t have to be at 4 Paws until 10 a.m. today so I figured, hey, why don’t we sleep in half an hour later and just try to leave by 9:30 a.m. We got down to breakfast right at 9:00 and I was so proud of myself for getting there exactly when we planned. Until we remembered that breakfast service ended at 9:00. Oops.

Today at training, we worked on longer “downs” and “sits” and then added distractions. When a service dog is given a command like “down,” there is an implied “stay” so the dog is expected to lie down until she is released (“free” in our case). Even if someone drops a french fry in her space. I was so incredibly proud of April!  She was a total rock star, even when they were throwing Pupperoni treats right in front of her or bouncing a ball right next to her. We also learned “heel” and auto sit. That means that she walks on the handler’s left and keeps her shoulder right in line with the left leg. When I stop, she automatically sits and waits for the next command.

I was already totally impressed. But then?  After training was over, we took her out to the yard to run around and play before heading to the hotel. She had a playmate in the yard and immediately just took off. This was the first time I’d seen her in her natural “dog playtime” mode. She was like a little fireball of energy. And when we said it was time to go, she walked out of that yard like a champ. All business.

Blew. My. Mind.

We brought her home to the hotel with us and she has been a perfect angel. I know we’re going to have challenging moments with her, but right now I am just enjoying this miracle.

april kids hotel

We had a couple of fun stories I wanted to share and then I’m headed to bed!

We were sitting at dinner tonight and were almost finished up when I happened to glance out of the window. I accidentally let out a squeal, grabbed the kids jackets and yanked them outside. It was totally snowing. Okay, it was a “flurry” but it was beautiful!!  When we got back, I checked the forecast. This has totally made my kiddos super excited. Okay, me too. If it’s going to be below freezing, we might as well have some fun with it!  (And all you snowbound friends, please keep your tar and feathers at a minimum.)

So yesterday, when we were introduced to April, they gave us a bag of kibble to use as treats. I was being conservative with it for a while until someone mentioned that the dogs hadn’t eaten breakfast yet in anticipation of lots of treat opportunities. I felt so rotten for not giving her all of her breakfast. This morning was the same story. So I was all proud of myself for taking the initiative and grabbing a bag of kibble for her to eat some breakfast. Until 30 minutes later when they brought out a bag of kibble that had been personally measured for her. Oops. So she’s been kinda gassy today. After an especially potent few minutes, I took her out to go potty. It was my first poop bag experience. I did the best I could. From our potty spot, I could see the dumpsters. I walked over and couldn’t figure out how to open the gate so I took aim and threw the bag as high as I could. The wind caught it and blew it onto the sidewalk. As I walked over to pick it up, I realized the fence was only a front and the entire side of the dumpster was accessible. Oops. So I took another shot with the poop bag and the dang wind caught it again. I am so very glad there were no witnesses to this very smelly, very gross few minutes. Although, April did look pretty disappointed in my throwing skills. The bag did eventually make it into the dumpster, though. No worries.

So I think I’ve earned a nice hot bath and an early bedtime.

Tomorrow, we do our first track!!  If I can still feel my fingers when we get back, I’ll tell you all about the search training!

Good night from Ohio!